the perfect gnu/linux #desktop just does not exist ! but @oraclelinux, @ibm @redhat and @canonical @xubuntu are as close as you can get
however
oracle linux and ibm red hat linux only run GNOME which uses 4G of RAM which make them unusable on sub £500 hardware and have never been able to run chromium however MS has now fixed this with edge
xubuntu solves the MEMORY problem with XFCE but then pre-installs a lot of AUTOSTART garbage such as SNAP, SPICE & UNATTENDED UPGRADE that use up to 50% CPU for no reason
UU is garbage for THREE reasons
- it uses 50% CPU
- it breaks aptitude
- it doesnt actually install any updates
if you are getting any of these problems or errors
# aptitude safe-upgrade
E: Could not get lock /var/lib/dpkg/lock-frontend.
It is held by process 3349 (unattended-upgr)
E: Unable to acquire the dpkg frontend lock (/var/lib/dpkg/lock-frontend), is another process using it?
then i suggest uninstalling it
# aptitude remove unattended-upgrades